Great sex is all about hitting the right angles, but finding them can take some experimentation. That’s why a sex pillow is game-changing: These cushions are designed to support and direct the body, opening you up to a wider range of feel-good positions. We spoke to experts to figure out how to shop for sex pillows—and which ones will set you up for success.
What should you consider when shopping for a sex pillow?
Decide whether you want a foam or inflatable pillow: Foam pillows tend to be firmer and sturdier, but tougher to travel with and store. Inflatable pillows are better suited for packing into a bag or drawer, but are potentially less durable.
Take the cushion’s style and size into account. Wedge sex pillows (like the Liberator Wedge and Dame Pillo) are the most common shape and can prop up the hips, says Mason. They’re a smart choice for beginners, since they let you explore different positions comfortably, Carol Queen, PhD, staff expert at Good Vibes, tells SELF. “Wedges can support your back, stabilize you during oral, and elevate your butt,” she says.
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There are also pillows shaped like ramps (which you can drape your body across); mounts (which you can hump and grind), cylinders, domes, and wedge-ramp combinations. Almost all are designed with removable covers you can throw in the wash, and some have loops that secure handcuffs and built-in holders for sex toys. Notably, any of these pillows is excellent for both partner and solo play. They expand your “depth-of-penetration options, allowing different angles of reach, so you don’t have to sit up to switch between vibrator modes,” Dr. Queen says.
The best sex pillows
Below, we’ve rounded up the best sex pillows according to experts and shoppers.
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